Cunnilingus, eating out, giving head, going down... Oral sex (on a female), no matter what you call it, should be a regular part of any intimate relationship. Why you ask? Because its awesome, it feels good, and it won't get you ( the lady) pregnant. But its all about the give and take. I've heard too many of my female friends complain about how their partners refuse to "go down" on them! Come on, guys! Its not often that a girl will completely turn down a guy when he wants oral, but what is it about a vagina that so many guys are afraid of? This mystical and scary female zone is totally worthy of some (lots) of attention.So I've broken it down to a few reasons why a guy might be turned off by the idea of giving oral to his lady.
1) Fear of not doing it right. I've heard from so many boys (notice...boys) that the only time they will go down on a girl is if they are drunk. This is craziness. For one, drunken sex can be totally fun but its also less meaningful and COORDINATED! You won't magically become good at giving oral after taking a few shots, trust me. Lapping and licking uncontrollably is unattractive and painfully unpleasurable. So, how do we resolve this? There is no step by step manual on how to give good head (well, there might be but that doesn't mean it will work), but if you are really interested in the desires of your partner then you should get to know their likes and dislikes. Ask her what she wants, what feels good, and how she wants it. Faster or slower? Fingers or no fingers? Communication is key. This will solve your problem. Don't be scared! She will be so impressed!
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2) He doesn't like the taste/smell. Ugh, please. If a woman is healthy and practices good hygine then her smell and taste are both totally normal and natural. While it may not taste like cotton candy or smell like freshly cut grass, neither does semen! And I'm pretty sure that not many guys truly enjoy the taste or smell of vodka/gin/whiskey or cheap beer either, but that doesn't put a damper on their willingness to binge drink as if alcohol was going out of style. What it comes down to is, guys who are completely unwilling to (atleast try and) service their ladies are selfish and undeserving of oral sex themselves !
3) He would rather just have sex. While its obvious that regular intercourse can be great, there is something to be said about oral. Females crave intimacy, and by going down on your woman, you're focusing your energy entirely on pleasing her...how much more intimate can you get? A friend told me that he feels a lot of satisfaction knowing that he's doing what he can to make his lady happy. It always feels good to help those in need, right? Plus, going down on her doesn't need to be the end of things, you could totally use this as a way to "pre-heat the oven!"
And ladies, don't be afraid to tell your guy what you want. Don't let yourself go feeling unfulfilled : )
Chivalry isn't dead, and certainly not in the bedroom.